Since going on my #OpBabyWeight diet in the first week of January, I’ve had to endure some pretty ugly showdowns with the bathroom scales. We’ve never been friends and I had to Dettol off the dirt and dust before climbing on them. Instead, I’ve always preferred to gauge how big or little I am by how tight my clothes feel. I currently take a size 16 but I like to tell people this is purely because of my big boobs and nothing to do with the size of my tummy; naturally, I’m fibbing.
It’s taken me almost 3 years (since having Dexter) to accept I have to lose some pounds. Despite wobbling a little when I walk, seeing unflattering pictures of myself in the press, and failing to turn heads when I’m dressed up to the nines, the truth was I was in serious denial about my weight. Such serious denial it bordered on body dysmorphia.
This is how I feel (3 years ago)

The thing that finally convinced me was a frank conversation with my other half. Until then he’d skirted around it for fear of upsetting me, but one night in December he innocently whispered to me in bed that my weight has never “bothered” him. My first instinct was to respond with a curt “Why would it?”. To me, I looked fine. After a few seconds though I understood he was trying to tell me I was bigger than he’d like.
It hurt. Of course it did. The man I plan on marrying had basically let it slip that I was fat.
Me now

Yet even though the big diet is in full swing, I don’t want to lose too much weight. I’d be very happy to make it to 10st and a curvaceous size 12. To me, size 12 looks healthy, desirable and beautiful - and more importantly, it’s achievable too.
My view seems to resonate with many. Whilst reading an article on Celebrity Watch about some of the weird diets favoured by celebs, I spotted they referred to survey by My Voucher Codes. The popular online voucher site had commissioned a survey of 500 men and 500 women to see whether their perception of the ideal body shape accords with that the media so often portrays: do we all secretly long to be super skinny, and do men really find a little meat on the bone sexy?

So, at a time when most of us are frantically signing up to Weight Watchers and stocking our fridge full of kale, cucumber and hummus to fulfill our New Year’s resolutions, My Voucher Codes sat hundreds of men and women down and gave them pictures of women from size 8 to size 16. They were then asked which body shape and size most appealed.
The results are a little surprising:

If maths isn’t your strong point, this means a staggering 43% of men, and 37% of women surveyed preferred the images of a size 14 woman
Given size 14 is the average size of women here in the UK, this is good news for us girlies. Unfortunately it seems my hankering after a size 12 isn’t great though given this is the least preferred size in the range!

Okay, we have to wonder what these pictures were. Were they pictures of celebrities? Was a flattering shot of Kim Kardashian pitted against an emaciated looking Keira Knightly or Portia de Rossi? How much photo-shopping had gone on with the pictures used? But if I take my pessimism out of the equation, it’s both illuminating and encouraging that average is okay.
So whilst my BMI might suggest I’m grossly overweight, all is not lost as regards my sex appeal. Maybe Craig was right and I shouldn’t be too harsh with myself.








