9 items every parent should provide their toddler growing in independence

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Seeing your baby grow from baby to toddler is an exciting time. Not only do you have one of the most interesting times in child development to watch, but it’s amazing seeing your child slowly increase in their independence, even just a little. This is truly a time to treasure. This is also probably the time in their life where they’re likely to start having tantrums for no reason. They don’t call this age the ‘terrible twos or terrible threes’ for nothing.

But how can you best prepare for this age? This will be a much different time to looking after them when they were a baby. You can’t just place them on a playmat or in a cot, give them some food and make sure they’re burped to keep them happy. It’s likely your child is starting to toddle about on their own, and using your entire house as a climbing frame.

This is natural, but it’s also something to watch out for. Your safety considerations need to be more focused, and doing a quick checklist of things to buy to protect your child is instructive. Here are just some of the things you might want to consider purchasing throughout this time.

Booster Seat

Once your child grows out of their baby car seat, you’re legally required to purchase a certified booster seat for your car. It’s a good idea to never buy these second hand (just in case they’ve been in an accident), and instead, fork out for a brand new piece of equipment for peace of mind. Ensure that the belt clippings are sturdy and that the child can sit in it comfortably.

The seat you’ll need at this stage will have a seating area and a backrest, but as they get older, you’ll be able to detach the backrest. Using a booster seat is unavoidable. If you don’t, you can be fined for negligence, so make sure you tune the seat to the needs of your child. Also make sure the belt isn’t too tight or too loose but fits against your child’s chest with firm yet slightly flexible security.

Stroller

The baby stroller just won’t be as useful as it once was. If your child is learning to walk, there’s a likelihood that they’ll try to be as independent as possible and flat out refuse to use your expensive old travel system. This affords you an opportunity to purchase a collapsible stroller, which can be useful for a plethora of reasons.

It will not only fit in the car’s trunk easily, but it’ll be lighter to manoeuvre around when in use. It’s still important to carry blankets and rain covers with you dependent on the weather. Even with this addition, the stroller is likely to be incomparably lighter than your first pushchair.

Again, it’s a good idea to get a stable, new model, as opposed to one second hand. Kids are notorious for finding the weaknesses in anything they’re exposed to, so ensure the structural integrity of your stroller upon purchase and you can be sure it’ll last the whole of your child’s toddler years.

Closed Cups

As your child gets older, they move away from breastfeeding or milk solutions and instead prefer a wider range of drinks. With their increased strength and growing maneuverability, they’re likely interested in handling the cup themselves. For reasons I needn’t insult your intelligence with here, handing them a standard cup or glass isn’t a great idea, and neither is an open topped plastic cup. Toddlers just aren’t as careful as they think they are.

You can get around this eternal problem by purchasing a few closed cup bottles. These allow you to close the top with a rubberized security feature that will allow them to feel grown up without throwing blackcurrant juice all over your white carpets. Be sure to wash them often and regularly, preferably in a dishwasher that steams the rubber, as this is the most hygienic method of bacteria removal.

Potty

Once your toddler is starting to potter about and walk semi-independently, this will be a great time to begin potty training. Help them onto the potty at first, and help them keep upright. This will allow them to understand the basics of posture and keeping themselves upright during the process.

However, not every toddler can get this right first time, which is why it’s wise to also purchase:

Training Pants

Training pants are used similarly to nappies, except these are less focused on having a tight seal and more focused on the easy removal and donning of the pants. This allows your child to get to grips with the basics of underwear and removing them akin to an adult for trips to the loo, except if an accident happens, they’re equally easy to rip off. It’s worth buying these in the same quantity you bought your nappies… for all too obvious reasons.

Shoes

If your toddler is now walking independently, no matter how successfully, it’s time to buy them their first pair of shoes. This is a fantastic and historical moment, so celebrate it! Find shoes online or take them to get fitted to help build their excitement. Remember, as their feet grow, this will end up being an all too regular purchase, so use a Schuch voucher code to help you cut the cost. Providing your child with a comfortable and secure mode of walking needn’t be expensive! Also be sure to assess the clothes they need regularly because you can expect growth spurts quite often if you’re feeding them well.

Art

With a subheading like that, you might be thinking “why should I buy a renaissance painting for my toddler?” What we actually mean is buying art crafting tools for them to use, simplified in a way that reduces the mess around your house. They’re too young to begin playing with paints, and they’re like to use crayons to write on your walls. Every parent has a similar story of this happening.

Instead, try opting for mess-free watercolour options. There are now many products on the market that allow your child to draw on a wipeable canvas with pens designed to work on that surface and no other. If they colour outside of the bounds of the picture, you won’t get a marker pen on your carpet. This is a great compromise for your child’s enjoyment and your peace of mind.

Sink Booster

Just like a potty, your child should learn the entirety of the toilet training process. If they’re walking around, you’ll need a sink booster that raises them off the floor by around 8/10 inches. This should allow them to get a height advantage and reach the sink themselves. Be sure to teach them the difference between hot and cold so they don’t burn themselves, and attend them for the first few months of them using the taps.

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Toddler Toiletries

Despite the fact that your toddler is growing, you can’t yet give them your toiletries to use and save money. The ingredients used in these products are harmful if they get in your toddler’s eyes, and can be irritating to their skin. Instead, much like you did when you were taking care of a baby, shop around and find washing solutions that have a neutral PH and are eye-friendly. Also, if they’re starting to grow their first teeth, buy a small toothbrush and some child’s toothpaste that has a nice taste. Help them slowly learn to brush their teeth bit by bit, one at a time as they grow.

Seeing your baby grow into a toddler is a beautiful time. Not only do you have many developmental milestones to witness, but here is where you’ll get a taste of the personality that your child has. Enjoy these times, because they’re often over faster than you’d realise.

… Finally, be sure to take plenty of pictures to embarrass them with in front of their first boyfriend/girlfriend as they get older! It’s the circle of life.

 


Concluding our potty training journey

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I’m delighted to say that Heidi is now officially potty trained!

This is such a departure from our experience with Dexter, I can’t quite believe I won’t have to rush around training her before she starts nursery in September. It’s such an achievement and we couldn’t be any prouder of our beautiful newly independent 2.5 year old.

We owe a great deal of thanks to Huggies Pull-ups for helping us throughout this journey. Their support was invaluable and their website pottytraining.co.uk was my go-to when the whole thing was getting me down. We followed their 6 Steps to Potty Success which provided tons of inspiration and advice as we hit the various roadblocks that PT throws your way.

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I’ve addressed several of these stages in previous potty training updates, but thought I would pick up where we left off so you can see how we crossed the finishing line with Heidi. There is such a sense of freedom when your child is potty trained; you can ditch the hefty baby change bag, there’s no more last-minute dashes to smelly unsanitary change rooms and no more bulk-buying Sudocrem - it really is worth putting the effort in.

Step 5: Be Consistent 24/7

This was a lot easier than we thought. Our training happened to coincide with last year’s heatwave, so Heidi spent a few months bare-bummed at home, before getting the hang of Huggies Pull-up’s (she struggled to pull them down at first being two years old and all), then eventually embracing her first set of tiny Disney knickers.

That first few trips out were pretty nerve-racking. I packed a zillion pairs of shorts and knickers and spent the duration on crotch-watch anticipating Heidi would soil herself. Yet this just never happened. It proved that Heidi was able to hold it in when necessary. We both quickly grew in confidence and it soon became second nature to leave the house nappyless.

Dry through the night is hit or miss with Heidi, but she does wake up when she’s had an accident, so is very aware of being wet. With a little more time, we hope we to have this nailed too.

Step 6: Keep Up The Great Work

Although I consider Heidi to be fully trained, it’s important not to get complacent. Regression is very common for potty-training toddlers, and Heidi does sneak upstairs to her favourite patch for a naughty-wee on occasion. PottyTraining.co.uk has dozens of tips to help you tackle this, and you might even decide to take your foot off the gas if your child really isn’t coping, but it was clear to us that Heidi’s indiscretions were entirely deliberate.

We dealt with these hiccups quickly and decisively and (thankfully) they’re now far less frequent. Heidi has always responded very well to praise so reward charts work well here, as does talking to her like big girl - she’s made so many positive steps, I try to focus on these as much as possible so she knows what a great job she’s doing.

Watching her grow up and gain her independence is so rewarding. Every day she seems to learn something new, and we’re so proud of her. I can’t wait to see what she does next.

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So thank you Huggies Pull-Ups and Dr. Heather Wittenberg for all of your help. We’ve learnt a lot and I’d wholeheartedly recommend the #6Steps approach if you are thinking of taking the leap with your child.

Why not join Heidi and I (and scores of others) and follow the 6 Steps to Potty Success program? Head on over to pottytraining.co.uk for tips, resources and for tips, resources and money-off coupons for pull-ups.


Potty Training Update (Part 2): Huggies Pull Ups 6 Steps to Potty Success

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With summer holidays, an unexpected vacation or two, and other dramas to contend with, I’ve been a little preoccupied with family life lately. My blog silence has given me plenty of time to really focus on Heidi’s potty training adventure, and we’ve come on leaps and bounds from my previous video update.

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For those of you stopping by for the first time, or a little behind on our family news, Heidi kicked off her potty training journey a few months ago, coinciding with a summer-long partnership with Huggies Pull-Ups and their newly devised Huggies Pull Ups 6 Steps to Potty Success program. They’ve worked with renowned child psychologist, Dr Heather Wittenberg, to create a fool-proof program to support you and your child as you navigate your way to freedom from nappies; from that first wee on the potty, to dry nights.

So where are we two months in?

Much to my surprise, Heidi took to her potty with real enthusiasm. It shouldn’t have come as too much of a shock as Dexter and Heidi are very different children. Whereas Dex is shy and introverted, Heidi knows no fear and deals with change like a pro. She’s desperate to catch up with her big brother developmentally and watches him on the toilet intently. So much so, before we kicked off this challenge with Heidi, she’d practically shoulder barge him off the loo to get to the flush button before he’d finished his business.

I’ve created a video update to show just how Heidi has been getting on - at home, out and about and at nap-time and bed-time. It’s been a real mixed bag, as with all my fellow Huggies Pull-Up ambassadors. Between us all we’ve seen potty training regression, flat-out refusals and some really encouraging progress. Heidi definitely belongs to the latter camp, although training has not been without its complications…

At home

About the house, Heidi has been a real joy to train. Her first wee on the potty came within minutes of saying goodbye to her nappy. In fact, if you try and put a conventional nappy on her now, she’ll whip it off in seconds and wag her finger at you. She’s a big girl now and will be damned if anyone tries to take it away from her.

She will wear Pull-Ups but prefers to be naked from the waist-down. We suspect this is more to do with how little she is, and the fact she has difficulty pulling them down in time, rather than a comfort-thing. It goes without saying that this isn’t always appropriate so she is slowly taking to big girl knickers after much encouragement from mummy and daddy. She alternates between potty and toilet and is equally happy on both.

Our biggest challenge BY FAR, has been number 2s. Heidi had a few accidents early on and pooped on the carpet, sofa and stairs… and pretty much everywhere else. When it became clear to Craig and I that we needed to be more forcibly encouraging her to keep her deposits to the loo and potty, we started to remonstrate with her a little and it backfired on us enormously. She’s now terrified of poo and thinks she’ll get in trouble no matter where it happens.

We know she’s about to go for a poo as she withdraws into herself and even hides. If you attempt to go anywhere near her or hold her hand to guide her somewhere laminated, she’ll scream. There is simply no reasoning with her at the moment so we’ve backed off for now. We’ll continue to clear up her mess and simply tell her that “next time you might want to use the potty”.

Out and about

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This was never going to be easy, and nowhere is the whole transition more complicated than day-trips. I have to constantly remind myself that Heidi is only just 2 and unable to communicate with us as effectively as a 3-4 year-old. She is used to simply trotting back and forth to the potty in her own time, and not having to ask or inform me that she’s about to pee. This makes it particularly hard for us when she has limited access to a toilet.

For now, we’ve popped a Pull-Up on and simply steered her to a loo whenever possible. She’s pretty indignant though and is yet to manage a wee in a public toilet. Rather she’ll go in her Pull-Up then take it off and fling it at us. This is the same procedure no matter where we go so friends and family and well-used to seeing our little madam in the buff in public.

At night

Heidi has well documented sleep problems. I think I’m now finally ready to take some responsibility for this and tell the world that we messed royally when creating a bedtime routine for her. Craig will take her upstairs, brush her teeth and read her a story, leaving her a bottle of milk for comfort. Yet Heidi is pretty greedy and one bottle is never enough. Capable of earth-splitting screams and midnight tantrums, we often dash to the kitchen for top-ups so the neighbours aren’t affected.

Half a pint of milk in bed means… you guessed it… pretty wet nappies. In fact, Heidi requires 2x changes in the night to stop her saturating the sheets. Ditching the nappies at bedtime is therefore something we’re prepared to tackle next year. To be honest, Dexter isn’t dry at night yet either.

We are using Huggies Pull-Ups Night-Time Training Pants with Heidi and are genuinely impressed with their absorbency. With cute characters, wetness indicator and super soft and stretchy sides that will accommodate the wiggliest of toddlers - these are now our pants of choice for bed-time. The wetness indicator is great for assessing when we need to do an emergency bum change in the night.

Are you potty training at the moment? If so, why not join Heidi and I (and scores of others) and follow the 6 Steps to Potty Success program? Head on over to pottytraining.co.uk for tips, resources and for tips, resources and money-off coupons for pull-ups.

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