Co-Sleeping with Your Baby: Pros and Cons

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The practice of co-sleeping, when parents share the bed with their child, has always been a controversial topic. Supporters believe it is better both for the infants and for the parents, as they have complete and immediate control on the baby’s needs during the night, while other studies have shown that co-sleeping could potentially be one of the causes of SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome).

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Why do parents choose co-sleeping?

Some of the benefits of co-sleeping might be:

  • Co-sleeping makes breastfeeding easier. It is already quite difficult for new moms to get a good night sleep during the first months of their children and having to wake up and walk at regular intervals to breastfeed does not help. Co-sleeping allows the mother to breastfeed her baby easier and quicker, directly in bed, simply rolling comfortably on one side.
  • Co-sleeping helps mother and child to develop the same sleep and awakening patterns, which also help both parents to sleep better. They might wake up more frequently, but there isn’t the stress of getting in and out of bed every time the baby needs them.
  • Co-sleeping might result in more independent children, although many disagree on that. Most researches show that children who co-slept grow up more self reliant, independent and less fearful.

Is co-sleeping safe?

Are the above benefits worth the potential risks related to co-sleeping? Despite the pros, many parents do not support co-sleeping as they find it to be dangerous for the baby, especially for infants, with the risk of SIDS. Main concern being the chance the parents roll over onto the baby, or the baby got caught in the sheets or pillows during the night.

That said, supporters of this practice said that it is very unlikely to happen as parents are conscious of the baby’s presence even when asleep.

However, if you are either a supporter of co-sleeping or you are thinking to experiment it, there are a couple of tips you might want to consider for the safety of your child.

Choosing the right bed, for example, is important for the baby. At www.bedstar.co.uk you can find different solutions suitable for co-sleeping, various beds and mattresses which might work better for you and your infant.

If you are not a co-sleeping supporter or you think it is time for your child to transitioning out of your bed, you might want to choose a crib to put next to the bed. You can even buy a device which allows attaching the crib to the bed, to simulate co-sleeping while eliminating the potential risk of rolling over your child.

When considering co-sleeping, try and think about the above pros and cons, if it is something that might suit your needs and your baby’s sleeping pattern. Remember it is a very personal choice and it might not work for everyone, it depends on how both parents feel about that and how the baby reacts.

He or she might sleep better when feeling safely hold and cuddled between his parents, others might wake up crying more often. It is a personal decision which you might want to talk to your child’s doctor as well.

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A Sneak Peek at Mini Madam & Some Bad News (28 Weeks)

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Well the good times were short-lived. Just two weeks after telling the world I was finally feeling better with this pregnancy, I’m feeling rubbish again.

Emotionally, I’m beginning to worry about the stresses of having another little one to look after. As Craig is self-employed and solely responsible for supporting this mini family, the night-feeds will be my job (and my job alone) from Day 1. Of course, this would be the case anyway, it’s not like Craig can detach my boobs and get on with it without me! But all of a sudden it seems very real and very scary.

With Dexter not yet at nursery, and getting ever-more demanding throughout the day - I do worry I might see a resurgence of PND too. I also really worry about how my little man will cope with sharing me… and how I will cope being shared! I have this mental image of Mini Madam latching on and Dexter emerging into the room with various treasures he’s managed to collect from around the house - bleach, knives, and scissors… Of course these things are usually locked away, but what if I’m exhausted and get careless, or if Dexter develops telekinesis due to abandonment issues???

In other news, I’m positively ravenous. The odd cherry bakewell and satsuma doesn’t touch the sides anymore. I’ve read that an 11lb weight gain is typical in the third trimester but if this carries on I’m likely to surpass that and eventually require air-lifting to the hospital!

Baby Girl 3D 28 Weeks

We also saw our gorgeous daughter in 3D this week. Craig managed to get a sneak peek too, in-between liberating various medical instruments from Dexie’s clutches throughout the scan. We counted all her toes and fingers and all the right bits were in the right places… including her girlie bits. This was such a relief. There was however bad news to come.

It seems my wonky belly button is due to Mini Madam chilling in just the one side of my belly. My placenta is wedged in beside her and she’s largely confined to my left hand side. Her feet are also wedged in beside her ears in all the tell-tale signs of another extended breech situation. What are the chances???

So it seems I have yet another Tom Daley wannabe lounging in my tummy. Dexter adopted exactly the same position throughout my first pregnancy and it ended with a failed ECV and a ruptured placenta. On my first day of maternity leave I bled out in my living room and had to call an ambulance. Dexter was delivered by emergency c-section a matter of hours later.

Of course there’s a slim chance baby could do a few somersaults and get into position before D Day - but there’s not much room in there for her to pull out such gymnastic feats. Of course I’ll be offered another ECV to try and poke and prod her over-and-under. But I’m beginning to think it would be selfish of me to even attempt this. An ECV might seem like the safest option, but I’ve seen firsthand what happens when it goes wrong. The thought of her getting tangled in my umbilical cord, or kicking my placenta to bits and compromising her ability to get those vital nutrients, frightens me more than the prospect of yet another c-section.

Of course I’m really reveling in the ‘what if’s’ here, but I’m still disappointed and worried. I had been really excited about the prospect of giving birth naturally and it’s sad to think I won’t be able to experience this. I also worry about whether my body will be able to cope with another pregnancy after this.

I’m off to see my midwife tomorrow - seems we have lots to talk about…

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